Infidelity & Relationship Recovery
This is some of the most
complex work there is.
Infidelity doesn't just damage trust. It reorganizes how you see yourself, your partner, and the relationship you thought you had. Whether you're the person who was betrayed, the person who strayed, or both trying to figure out what comes next — there is no clean script for this.
I work with individuals and couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity without pushing toward a predetermined outcome. Some people need space to grieve and decide. Others want to understand how they got here. Some want to rebuild. All of those are legitimate — and the work looks different in each case.
What This Work Involves
Holding space for the
full complexity.
Infidelity work doesn't follow a tidy process. It moves at the pace of the people in the room, and it requires a clinician who can tolerate ambiguity and resist the urge to rush toward resolution.
For the Betrayed Partner
The discovery of infidelity is a trauma response — not a metaphor. We work through the shock, the grief, the intrusive thoughts, and the identity disruption that comes with having your reality rewritten. And we build the clarity you need to make decisions that are actually yours.
For the Partner Who Strayed
Understanding why is not the same as excusing it. This work involves honest self-examination — looking at what was missing, what was avoided, and what patterns may have been operating beneath the surface. Without shame spirals. Without letting yourself off the hook.
For Couples Trying to Rebuild
Rebuilding after infidelity is possible, but it requires more than forgiveness and goodwill. It requires a real accounting of what happened, a willingness to change what needs changing, and a framework for rebuilding trust that both people actually believe in.
For Those Who Aren't Sure Yet
You don't have to know what you want before you come in. A lot of people arrive here not knowing whether they want to stay or go — and that uncertainty is exactly where the work begins. I hold space for that without rushing you toward a decision.
My Approach
No predetermined outcomes.
No taking sides.
My job in this work is not to tell you what to do. It's to create a space where both people feel genuinely heard — even when they're experiencing the same events in completely opposite ways. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method, both of which are grounded in decades of research on what actually helps couples repair after rupture.
For individuals, the work is different. We're not managing a relationship — we're helping you understand what happened, process the impact, and figure out what you actually want. That sometimes means staying, sometimes leaving, and sometimes sitting with not knowing for a while longer.
Getting Started
You don't have to have it
figured out to reach out.
If you're in the middle of this and don't know what you need yet — that's okay. Get in touch and we can figure out together whether individual or couples work makes the most sense right now.
